All my children are taught of (by) the Lord and great is the peace of my children. Isaiah 54:13
I recognize we all come from different backgrounds and points of belief in our spiritual walk in this life. In my walk in raising my children (our three children, my hubby and me) this scripture has been my lifeblood and something I have turned to daily and do even to this day even though our children are grown and have added to our family with their own wonderful families.
As a parent, I have learned and grown so much. As most parents will probably tell you, our children can teach us so very much. We think we are here teaching them and surprise! they have come with so much to teach us.
At 3am feedings I learned to be selfless and patient - and to take a nap during the day when the opportunity afforded it.
At 5 years old I learned the importance of learning and education choices for my children as well as the importance of allowing them to choose good friends by sometimes seeing them heartbroke over the not-so-good friend. Add to that an unexpected, wonderful lesson for me was recognizing along the way that striped socks and a plaid shirt with shorts aren't really so bad when the one wearing them feels so proud they picked it out (and no just for the record I'm not talking about my husband here).
At 16 I learned the importance of allowing my children to make those big decisions for their present and future and to only step in if there was cause for concern or maybe a 'blindspot' overlooked. That seeing your children fall in love didn't take away anything FROM our relationship and our family but really only ADDED to it.
At 18 I learned that my grown children aren't really grown 100% (are any of us really?) and that they still welcomed warm hugs, kitchen table conversations and availability of their parents and siblings.
At 20 (on up) I learned that no matter how old they get I will still always care when they are hurt, sad or disappointed and that saying "I told you so" is never appropriate because they feel it profoundly and it's painful for them to even acknowledge. Celebrating them is just as important today as it was when they were 5. That the 'best damn kids in the world' still sit at our kitchen table, talk to us on the phone, send us text messages (modern day parenting) and fun everyday pics because they want to not because they have to.
I have learned that my children constantly surprise me in such a positive way given the opportunity to be on their own path and follow THEIR heart....theirs, not mine...even when it looked like their heart led them to a 'dead end'.
No matter what concern may be in front of me regarding my children I have a deep, profound knowing that they each have their own path to travel and that Spirit is just as much with them as with each one of us (just one more reason to love the picture that is with the post - what a beautiful visual). I learned a long time ago to pray not that there is an outcome I desire for them but rather that my children would be taught by the Lord - this means that they would have awareness, love, kindness and direction in their lives and that great would be the PEACE of my children no matter the path they are on.
My parents would always say all they wanted was for their kids to be happy. I now share this same sentiment regarding my children.....
Let me share an aha! that I have had regarding this:
I have learned when we are happy, we make great decisions for our life and I have watched this with my children as well. We all have our OWN path that is right for us. We can feeeel it in us when a choice feels good even if we are hesitant about it. I can no more judge the rightness of the path for my children than I can for any other person in my life. When we are choosing to live out someone else's dream or expectation for us we can feel the unrest, the discomfort, the upset inside of us and the minute we rock the Boat of Plans and Expectations and listen to what feels good to us it's like putting on a well worn, good fitting pair of jeans after a long day of dress clothes and work.....ahhhh! home again!
So take this with you today:
"All my children are taught of (by) the Lord and great is the peace of my children."
Give your children the gift of allowing them to be who they are in this world. Love them, stop trying to control their life because you think you know best; and above all hold them in your heart in a place of believing that great is the PEACE of your children, because only good comes from that.
How can I share this? Because I've traveled the road and made my good choices and not good choices and allowing my children to be who they are, to love them, to allow them to figure out their life, to step in only when invited has surprised me greatly in realizing how adept we all are at choosing our path (they continually surprise me in a wonderful way). Celebrating them and deeply believing everything works out for them no matter what it looks like, has been a joy, a privilege and a great liberation for me on my journey! Yes, my children have taught ME so much and great is the peace of my children (and their mom!)
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